FTW: Lady Gaga WIN!!

"I can't believe I'm saying this – don't have sex;
It's okay not to have sex;
It's okay to get to know people;
"I'm celibate, celibacy's fine!"
~Lady Gaga

Wants & Needs: Sex

Perfect Worlds: The Bachelor♥

More on Mickey Mouse's Colorism, continuing from Critical Thinking and Modern Rape, an excerpt  from "Bachelor's White Elephant" at Racialicious:

Why's everyone on the Bachelor and the Bachelorette white?
Before you accuse me of hating on interracial lovers and their offspring, let me just say that it is not individual interracial white/nonwhite couples that trouble me. It is rather the constant movie/televisual representations of mixed race couples and their corollary that tires me out: which is that white folks are always portrayed as more loveable and desireable than people of colour. (read more)

Critical Thinking & Modern Rape

Please, let's stop raping each other
    -anonymous, probably me
This post is more of a rant about society and culture than anything else, though I put some effort into making the ideas clear. If you'd like to raise your consciousness about this topic I suggest you read Rape Culture 101, by Melissa at Shakesville. Let's start with the basics:

What is self-identity?
Self/identity may be defined as the conglomerate of the six senses (WHAT?!),  as a fragile yet seemingly concrete substance held together by the widely discounted sense, mind. Self/identity is informed (as a direct or indirect function of memory) by our environment and our perceptions of the world, which are compacted, organized and reiterated, repeatedly. Over the course of development and maturation, from formative years through adolescence to young adulthood, environmental and social impressions  become stronger, more vivid, matter in the neurons.

Why Are Your Pants So Tight?

In the realm of fitness, yoga and exercise, it is an absolute MUST to wear loose-fitting clothes as doing so helps our body regulate its temperature and circulation. However, looking around at the latest fashion, one should come to the conclusion that: when not exercising, we MUST. WEAR. REALLY. TIGHT. PANTS.

Tight pants and fashion have been on my mind for the past year, though, in the form of a recurring thought: "why are your pants so tight?" I wanted an answer and found one soon enough. My sister and I recently shared a conversation in which we reasoned to the singular objective of tight pants: to conserve fabric and materials.

Happy V-Day (Nice shoes. Wanna fork?)

Happy V-Day ("Nice Shoes. Wanna fuck?")

Bow to the Goddess - (some)Things I Like:


C. C. Baxter sporting a Junior Executive Bowler


American Teen-age Penis: The Pursuit of the Vulva

Next week, A Life Podcast is planning on doing a show about Asexuality and Self Identity. If you have any comments/stories etc you'd like to tell, you can contact them on facebook or at the website. You may to stay anonymous if you wish :)

Coincidentally, I recently wrote a post about identity titled "My Asexiness is...". Read the comment from Slightly Metaphysical, who makes some really insightful points.

I choose to put forth some effort, for you (yes, you), of course, to articulate my asexuality; to perhaps inspire you to explore your asexuality, spirituality, and to further understanding. Nevertheless, all this is theorizing, is it not?:

My Asexiness is...

My asexual identity is in a diametric op-position to the modern world system with its patriarchy, objectification, and misogyny. Asexuals, Feminists, unite!

[edited on 28Jan, for "clarity"]

Sex-less-ness and Enso

At some point I realized verbalizing about my asexuality creates noise in the usual essential quietude of my sexless world view.

FAIL: Monkey See, Monkey Doo

I've recently noticed some characteristics of the angry asexual in myself. Most of the writing ideas that I'm inspired to post are mostly not positive. It's time for a hiatus.

Here are three posts by Ily and Asexual Love that articulate my feelings on sexuality in general: one on delusion, another on delusion-in-action, and a third on programming. And this post was the wake-up call to my current experience.

Monogamy & TV

One of the people I met at an asexy meetup referenced some article on the nature of marriage and relationship. After searching online I found a few. Here's one: Is Monogamy Natural?


I finally sat down to watch some TV with my sister. Two days ago we watched an ABC lineup, all three show were centered on sex. Topping off the night was Cougartown, a show about age and sex. Then yesterday I watched Seinfeld, a favorite, and was incredibly disappointed that it was an entire show dedicated to orgasms. It was a terrible two days. I am experiencing much animosity at the moment.

that which ails the asexual . . .

What is this?

This is a response to Asexy Beast's post on Asexual Doubt in their entertaining and intriguing series, Things Asexuals Like.

Asexual doubt is a matter of confidence: confidence in oneself in the face of the future, a community, new relationships, and whatever else arises as a challenge, be it psychic/mental anxiety/disorder/confusion, or social or resistance to intimate physicality. (You, for example, have great confidence in yourself as a complete being, and you have worked out and incorporated your asexuality to a sure steadfast, correct?)

When we begin to deal with these challenges doubt plays an important role by raising red flags. The more red flags that arise concerning a particular subject or experience, the more attention is needed in said area.

Physics: Asexuality

"Asexuality is a description, not a commitment. If it changes in the future for me, then that's that. Either I was wrong about my orientation, or my orientation changed. It is thought that asexuality, like other sexual orientations, can sometimes change, but it is rare, and not by conscious choice. Basically, I'm not going to count on it."

Check out Skeptic's Play post, "Yes I Am Asexual"

Asexuality and "the game"

There is no endgame
I ran across this picture on the net today. It seemed relevant to today's post. It was captioned  "learning young" (heterosexist humor)...

There is an idea in buddhism that one must strive- or maybe it was "not to strive"- to reach a point where they stop thought-ing. Some call this a state of no-mind, others call it enlightenment. Either way, everything that is done is done naturally, with equanimity. There are no delusional endgames: nothing to fuel ego-grasping...

In this way, I believe, practical buddhism and asexuality go hand-in-hand: there are only joyous adventures to be had without end "games".

Anger and Peace, Beauty in the Beast

I have been sitting zazen often for the past couple of weeks. Just about every morning I wake up and sit and watch my mind for anywhere between 5 and 30 minutes. It has been a revealing practice. I have become  increasingly attuned to my feelings and find that there is a lot of anger and anxiety, a continual gushing of hostility.

The reason for all this negative energy is obvious. It has to do with my verve for truth, consciousness, and awareness; this in addition to my recent dabbling with the skeptics, champions of reason and critical thinkers like James Randi, Richard Dawkins, Michael Shermer and their associates and associations.

Pomosexual asexual

I may be part pomosexual. I still have to clear this brainwashing. Once the dust settles I will know, if it ever does. If not, I guess I am once again, pluralist.

Pomosexual: portmanteau of postmodernism abbreviated to pomo and sexual; it is a neologism used to describe a person who shuns sexual orientation labels (such as heterosexual and homosexual), and in turn chooses not to label oneself with a sexual orientation. It is not to be confused with asexuality, which is a sexual orientation used to describe an individual who does not experience sexual attraction

las preguntas del sexo (SEX QUESTIONS)

To do:
1. Play solitaire and sweep mines
2. Propagate the species

       ~ facebook status

The following is a survey I found at the What do you mean by sex? asexy blog. The author had a lot of interesting responses that, in retrospect make mine seem not up to par. I think what happened here was I just intuited some ideas which I believe are important to conserve as a conscious asexual. My responses are prone to change and I will update and edit as I explore asexuality.

1. How would you define/describe asexuality?

Asexuality is intrinsically vague by its alternormative nature. It is the space between. It is what was there before...

Asexuality to me is getting back to the essence of what makes us human and not animal. I believe asexuality is an ability. For some it is natural, retained from birth through adolescence; these people have not been acculturated to the environment and I do no imply that natural asexuals are dysfunctional. For others alsexuality is realized or slowly realized over time, after several illogical, impressive life events, be they sexual experiences or not.