HAPPY EARTH WEEK & APR20

FTW: Lady Gaga WIN!!

"I can't believe I'm saying this – don't have sex;

It's okay not to have sex;
It's okay to get to know people;

"I'm celibate, celibacy's fine!"
~Lady Gaga

Wants & Needs: Sex

Perfect Worlds: The Bachelor♥

More on Mickey Mouse's Colorism, continuing from Critical Thinking and Modern Rape, an excerpt  from "Bachelor's White Elephant" at Racialicious:

Why's everyone on the Bachelor and the Bachelorette white?

Before you accuse me of hating on interracial lovers and their offspring, let me just say that it is not individual interracial white/nonwhite couples that trouble me. It is rather the constant movie/televisual representations of mixed race couples and their corollary that tires me out: which is that white folks are always portrayed as more loveable and desireable than people of colour. (read more)

Critical Thinking & Modern Rape

Please, let's stop raping each other
    -anonymous, probably me

This post is more of a rant about society and culture than anything else, though I put some effort into making the ideas clear. If you'd like to raise your consciousness about this topic I suggest you read Rape Culture 101, by Melissa at Shakesville. Let's start with the basics:

What is self-identity?
Self/identity may be defined as the conglomerate of the six senses (WHAT?!),  as a fragile yet seemingly concrete substance held together by the widely discounted sense, mind. Self/identity is informed (as a direct or indirect function of memory) by our environment and our perceptions of the world, which are compacted, organized and reiterated, repeatedly. Over the course of development and maturation, from formative years through adolescence to young adulthood, environmental and social impressions  become stronger, more vivid, matter in the neurons.

Why Are Your Pants So Tight?

In the realm of fitness, yoga and exercise, it is an absolute MUST to wear loose-fitting clothes as doing so helps our body regulate its temperature and circulation. However, looking around at the latest fashion, one should come to the conclusion that: when not exercising, we MUST. WEAR. REALLY. TIGHT. PANTS.

Tight pants and fashion have been on my mind for the past year, though, in the form of a recurring thought: "why are your pants so tight?" I wanted an answer and found one soon enough. My sister and I recently shared a conversation in which we reasoned to the singular objective of tight pants: to conserve fabric and materials.

Monogamy & TV

One of the people I met at an asexy meetup referenced some article on the nature of marriage and relationship. After searching online I found a few. Here's one: Is Monogamy Natural?

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I finally sat down to watch some TV with my sister. Two days ago we watched an ABC lineup, all three show were centered on sex. Topping off the night was Cougartown, a show about age and sex. Then yesterday I watched Seinfeld, a favorite, and was incredibly disappointed that it was an entire show dedicated to orgasms. It was a terrible two days. I am experiencing much animosity at the moment.

that which ails the asexual . . .

What is this?

This is a response to Asexy Beast's post on Asexual Doubt in their entertaining and intriguing series, Things Asexuals Like.

Asexual doubt is a matter of confidence: confidence in oneself in the face of the future, a community, new relationships, and whatever else arises as a challenge, be it psychic/mental anxiety/disorder/confusion, or social or resistance to intimate physicality. (You, for example, have great confidence in yourself as a complete being, and you have worked out and incorporated your asexuality to a sure steadfast, correct?)

When we begin to deal with these challenges doubt plays an important role by raising red flags. The more red flags that arise concerning a particular subject or experience, the more attention is needed in said area.

To have OR to hold? That [ought to be] the question

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"Lust awakens the desire to possess; and that awakens the intent to murder."
~ The Old Man, Spring Summer Fall Winter

"What goes through your mind when you see an attractive [person]?"
This question was posed to me last weekend. I saw it coming but was still caught off guard--well I guess I wasn't on guard, which is a good thing, I guess. I wasn't thinking about my asexuality the whole time; and looking around at the group, it seemed inappropriate and, frankly, unnecessary to raise a stink about asexuality and my asexuality. Instead, I talked about attraction.

Erasure: No-Self

"Our thoughts are not our own"

Toward the end of high school, I was intent on clearing and distilling my mind. Some very important events led me to the realization that life, mine and that of most of the people in my environment, isn't ours. It was as though reality was spread upon a stilted foundation. My ideas about reality crystallized over the course of the Buddhism unit of my modern world history class instructed by the man with the white beard and ponytail, Mr. B.

Awakening (There was a crack in the consciousness!)

If you want something, others may want it, too.

This is what the old man said. A monk, a recluse and his young boy live life in a river valley surrounded by mountains miles away from the city. As Buddhists--

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Hello everyone. My name is Raymo. I am first-gen Ghanaian-American. And I am an asexual.